Its the start of a new year, for most of us its a big fat “so what” ! I still have to do exactly what i was doing last week, live the same experience, get up same time, go to bed the same time, sleep, cook, clean, shop in fact everything is exactly the same. But we have hope for what the year might bring. I wonder what that is for you. I wonder what you hope for. A better job ? more cash ? nicer car? Perhaps it's about health and well being. The truth is that for many, the new years chant is lost on us. Especially if you are sick or in pain. Or if you live under the cloud of abuse be it physical or emotional. The truth is we all have our dark spaces and if we could find a way to dissolve them, wouldn’t that be incredible ? To point at a portion of your life or experience and wave a wand to change whatever it is, into something positive. What would you hope for ? I’m not talking about outside of you, being completely self focused, what would you hope for ? How would it change your life ? If you could escape the abusive situation or find a cure for your pain. Would having a better car or more cash change your life ? if so how ? I often play that out in my mind. If i had all the money i could need, perfect kids who were happy, great house, perfect health. What would my life look like ? what would i wake up to ? How would it feel being in that skin. Before you turn that card you have to turn another…. “How did i get here” !? It's a much more important question. because for most of us it's relevant to our current situation. Of course sickness, bereavement and accidents are events we have no control over. But even then, we have control over how we react and respond to those events. So much of what we feel today is under our control. Despite how hopeless it might seem. Sometimes like a massive wall we can’t see past. But we can take small steps, small choices that make small changes until we feel strong enough to make the big choices which make the big changes. For most, it just takes the first step. We make a plan, visualise its shape and conclusion. Set a path. We make the choice in our hearts, then convince our stubborn minds to obey. There is no failure … just practice ! I’ve no doubt i will be “practicing” till the day i die. Getting it wrong, even badly wrong, is not failure, it’s part of the change. Let’s be brave, let’s call for a future we we can be joyful in. Our journey is far too short to waste time being stuck in a life we don’t recognise. Join me in moving forwards and let’s take those first steps together.
Jimi Katz managing director of "Arkesise" a multidisciplinary centre of therapeutic excellence.
"My place is here, now. What has gone before has informed my journey and fired my mission. My passion, is releasing my fellow journeymen to experience life with fresh eyes, a fresh beginning. Let's walk together for a time, let's open doors together, let's uncover our true selves" Jimi Katz