If you've been reading these blogs, you realise that my mantra is all about being honest about who i am. No excuses, no apology. It's a familiar chant, i'm sure you've come across it many times in one form or another. I can compromise and negotiate, but only if the compromise or negotiation doesn't result in the dilution of my centred self. I also reserve the right to change or move my centred self to another place. I reserve the right to change my mind about things, i reserve the right to disbelieve something i believed in, believe something i disbelieved, reject something i use to accept or accept something i used to reject. I could go on but you know what i mean. I reserve the absolute right to stay flexible and fluid, open to new ideas, new thoughts and knowledge. All of that helps me to stay accepting and non judgmental of my self, my past actions and mistakes and underpins my whole philosophy of my treatment of others.
Unfortunately many people looking on, find it difficult to have the same fluid thoughts about others. It's been one of the most valuable journeys i have taken. I have spent many, many years learning how to remain true to me, regardless of what pressure an environment places on me, most find it incredibly difficult not to mould into whatever shape those around demand, or the circumstances. My discovery is that honesty of your centered self is a fundamental, all encompassing truth. It's not very popular, but it is very freeing.
So, recently it was my birthday, and my wife asked me what i wanted. I spent a lot of time thinking about it and what i decided shocked my (grown up) children as they never thought i would do such a thing. I decided i would have a tattoo ! I know it doesn't sound so radical to many, but for me, it really was. My wife has quite a few tattoos, and i have stated in the past how i couldn't see the need to mark my body for the sake of self expression. I'm quite happy for people to express themselves any way they wish, but not for me. Then i realised that i wanted a permanent, visible representation of a new direction i was taking, that i wanted something that would remind me every day, of the decision i took. So off we went. I have to say it hurt .... quite a bit .... as the needles bit into my flesh i winced and my face contorted. Thankfully it was not a big tattoo. When it was done, i was really happy with it. Even now, almost a month later i still smile when i see it and remember why i had it done.
I have to thank Mrs K, actually for lots of things, but in this, for allowing me to be me, whatever that means.
Jimi Katz is managing director of "Arkesise" a multidisciplinary centre of therapeutic excellence
My place is here, now. What has gone before has informed my journey and fired my mission. My passion, is releasing my fellow journeymen to experience life with fresh eyes, a fresh beginning. Let's walk together for a time, lets open doors together, let's uncover our true selves.